HOW
TO CONTROL ONE’S ANGER
The
Holy Quran and Sunnah do not just order us not to be angry, they also tell us
about ways of bringing one’s anger under control. If practiced regularly these
strategies help a person keep his/her anger under control.
One
of the first things to understand in this regard, is to be able to
differentiate between experiencing the emotion of anger, and the behaviour that
follows from that anger. If a person comes across a situation in which
something happens that he finds distasteful or unpleasant, then it is natural
to sometimes get feelings of anger, and become emotional. Up to this stage
feeling these emotions is beyond his control, and therefore, there is no sin in
experiencing such emotions. However, the behaviour that follows the experience
of that emotion, whether, physical or verbal, is or should be under a person’s
control, and he is accountable for all those behaviours. For example, if a
person becomes angry over something but keeps his behaviour in check, expresses
their anger in a mild and polite manner, and leaves it at that, then there is
no sin in that behaviour. However, in the same situation, if the person loses
complete control of his anger, becomes physically or verbally abusive, and
causes undue emotional or physical harm to someone, then it will become a major
sin.
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